viewpoint - By Reshma Krishnamurthy Sharma – Published in the Deccan Herald

It is ironical that when we talk of staying united in a country that has diverse cultures, languages; in our own homes we tend to discourage guests.

Remember one of the shlokas taught when we were young, “Athithi devo bhava”, (Guests are compared to gods!); more often said when someone is invited home. Funny but true, today the meaning of this shloka, at least in cities, seems to have very little meaning — as most urban households find having a guest at home equivalent to a nightmarish experience.

Today no one wants to forgo his or her privacy, as it amounts to compromise on the comfort zone. If one cites one of the primary reasons for this situation as the nuclear family set-up, it would not be completely wrong.

Nuclear families may have taken pride in ensuring luxuries for themselves and their little ones by providing ample amount of privacy in terms of independent rooms, bathrooms, separate dining, music room or study room. But if we do not imbibe the quality of adjusting with others or realising that being with others does not always necessarily limit our fun or convenience quotient, it would somewhere strengthen the bond of relationships.

A recent incident made me think if we are becoming intolerant by the day, as I overheard a well-dressed lady complaining to her friend in a library that Bangalore is a tough place to live in. Why?

Guests are always home at her place since she has moved to Bangalore. Generally, I am not the kind of person who would like to eavesdrop, but the conversation was literally diverting my attention of scrolling for the book to ask her if life was so miserable because of guests.

The lady went on, “Even if I have two maids at home it is difficult to give personalised attention to guests as it takes a toll on me and my time.” Sad but true, looks like urban households have a new problem — guests at home.

Isn’t it ironical that at times when we talk of staying united in a country that has diverse cultures, languages; in our own homes we find ourselves as if handling a big deal to adjust with guests at home, more often our own relatives or a friend who thought staying at home would be more appropriate than staying in a lodge?

Gone are the days when a lot of children would wait for their annual vacations to meet up with their cousins, spend time together. Today, it is not uncommon to find kids getting restless especially when they find a guest holding their television remote control where they have to skip their favourite programme or they find the guest is sitting on his or her favourite chair.

One needs to give a thought on bringing forth the value of adjusting with others as one of the basic values at home, as it will save adults from embarrassment when kids throw a tantrum on not sharing something with a guest.

This is, of course, not possible for children to learn if adults do not display the attitude of genuinely welcoming guests at home.

Perhaps this is one of those aspects where joint families scored better than nuclear families, as adjustment was not a sacrifice, but a part of life.

Privacy, of course, is needed and is greatly appreciated, yet when there are opportunities to share what you have achieved —  whether it is your home or your heart do not miss the chance.

Posted: June 11th, 2008 under Deccan Herald.
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Reliving the past would make one feel positive and understand the value of life.
Memories are not computer-centric to be erased by the press of a button. This would have been nice, if we were to do away with lots of bad memories. To keep ourselves at bay from bad reminiscences, we distance anything that gets associated with an unpleasant incident.

Likewise to give ourselves moments of happiness we should also indulge in activities that remind us of happier things in life.

Clearing a pile of clutter gathered in a corner does not seem to be a pleasing task but amongst the litter, if you find a rusted old photograph, you will agree that most of us have felt that rush of pleasant emotion rising through our veins. An old photograph that reminds you of your college or the one that brings in a rush of childhood memories is always treasured.

Ever wondered what makes the experience more pleasant when you listen to your favourite old Hindi film number on radio or on tape. Other than the sheer melody; many of you would agree that songs more than a few years old, give the joy of reliving the past.

Likewise think about the times whenever you pass by your school or college. Unless you are in a hurry to rush to another place, very few would miss the opportunity of not slowing in front of the building and remembering the times there.

Re-living the past is something, which all of us do and we should learn to appreciate things that remind us of our past.

Catching up with childhood friends after long periods of time, starting a hobby again years later or re-starting music lessons after a couple of decades makes us feel nostalgic and elated. We all re-live our past in subtle tones, though we do not acknowledge it completely.

So in case you happened to stumble upon a funny drawing you made so lovingly of your teacher and years later you found it funny; you know the thrill and memories it brings to you.

So make sure to cough up some extra efforts in preserving your child’s first drawing or other such things that remind you of the moment. At the end of it, the more one indulges in such endeavors; it will help us feel life is worth living whether it is in the present or in the memorable past.

Posted: October 26th, 2007 under Deccan Herald.
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It is her most favoured possession. It gives her a sense of liberation, of being in control of her immediate environment. Yep, we are talking of that special relationship between urban women and two-wheelers

She is in control and holds on to her prized possession with warmth. Over the years it has become a symbol of independence and liberation to lakhs of women. Welcome to the new world of urban woman where her must haves include a lot more than shoes, cosmetics or even the fancy mobile. It is something that is crucial for her independence, security and a feeling of being in control of her environment. A two-wheeler counts on being one of her most valued possession in life, something which she is not ready to give up even if she can afford to buy a four-wheeler.

When you ask Yeshashwini Dattatreya, a young working woman on her relation with the two wheeler she uses, instant comes the reply, “I cannot step out my home without my two-wheeler. Even on the day I have given the vehicle for servicing, I land up borrowing someone else’s two-wheeler from the family and move around.”

A city like Bangalore is almost incomplete in its description if one would not mention about the increasing number of women who ride two wheelers to college or work places. It is not only these two segments who use two- wheelers.

A lot of homemakers use it as the major form of their conveyance. Take for instance, N Prathibha, a homemaker who is a great fan of her Honda. For her it is the most comfortable thing in her life as she can use it for varied purposes. She adds, ” Even if tomorrow efficient public transport like the metro rail comes, my use with the two-wheeler will not get limited. Having to even buy vegetables or groceries by walk is a constraint, however it is a time saving proposition if I use my two wheeler.”

Speaking about her association with her two-wheeler Dr Veena Maheshwari, a dentist says ” I have been using my two wheeler since the last eighteen years. If I can phrase it, ‘It is like an aeroplane on the road’. For me it is difficult to use any other mode of transport in a city like Bangalore. Though we have a car at home, I dread to think of using it as I have to hunt for parking spaces and to travel in buses means I have to move around according to the bus timings, which is not acceptable. And I do not have very pleasant experiences with autos, so it is best to stick to my two wheeler by which I do not have to depend on anyone.”

Recognising the need of women using two wheelers, manufactures are tapping this space by providing varied and easy to use and maintain features in two wheelers such as storage space, easy handling and lightweight, which are critical for a woman rider.

Needless to say, the two-wheeler segment has a lot of players amongst which prominent are the Kinetic Nova, Honda Activa and the popular Scooty series. Taking the women riders seriously, Hero Honda entered this segment last year with Hero Honda Pleasure and has even come out with ‘Just 4 her’ showrooms. The ‘fairer sex’ does not have choices limited to lipsticks, shoes or handbags. Today, women have the choice to purchase a two-wheeler that can match even their streaked hair.

Whether it is independence, convenience or comfort, all of these matter to the urban woman and no matter what authorities say about roads getting more crammed with vehicles, Bangalore needs to gear up as increasing number of women use their two-wheeler akin to their personal belonging in life. So until women are really convinced to switch to some other mode of transport, enjoy the ride and zoom…away!

Posted: October 13th, 2007 under Deccan Herald.
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A recent trend that is on the rise with urban Indian women is them saying goodbye to traditional accessories that immediately indicate a woman’s marital status. Post the wedding day or a few days later, many women find it cumbersome or not in vogue to wear accessories like bangles, toe rings, mangalsutra, sindhoor or a nose ring. Earlier, it was taboo to withdraw these, as they were associated with the well-being of the husband. Today, there are quite a few women who feel these are outdated concepts and these accessories don’t get along with their regular dressing sense or that they need not make a statement to the world about their marital status.

Geeta K M, a landscape designer, married for over 21 years says, “as a matter of fact on a daily basis, I do not wear all these accessories like toe rings or even my mangalsutra. It is not that I find them not in vogue as much as I do feel that there is absolutely no need for me to project all the time that I am married.”

It could be that the urban woman is also seeing other corporate women across the world who maintain a look devoid of traditional accessories. Also a point stressed by fashion experts to ‘dress in which you are comfortable most’, a statement that many women agree upon.

Anupama A, a senior manager, in an IT firm says, ” for me, the primary reason is that accessories like bangles interfere in my job when I am working on the computer for a long time. Similar is the case with toe rings which hurt when I wear certain shoes. Secondly, I do feel these accessories don’t go with the kind of outfits I wear, whether it is western outfits or even salwar kameez.”

It is not only working women who prefer to get away from these accessories. Homemaker Ambika Avinash who is married for over nine years wonders, ” Isn’t it an individual choice? On a regular basis, I don’t wear them. Though for traditional functions I like to dress with lots of bangles and other accessories that can match the mood.” This is a thought seconded by others too who feel that earlier, Indian women would wear them as they were made compulsory by elders. Today with lesser restrictions placed on these matters, many are opting to wear them or not out of their choice. Also quite a few women feel accessories like dozens of bangles or detachable nose rings can be worn for specific occasions.

While a lot of married women feel traditional accessories like toe rings and bangles do not come in their list of fashion fundas, there are also women who feel strongly on the point that it is these very accessories that make an Indian woman look good. Take for example Kalavathi Murlikrishna, a lady married for over thirteen years. ” Having been a Bharatanatyam dancer at one point of time, I feel it is accessories like these that make a woman look more beautiful especially when worn with garments like the saree.”

Indian roots
In the case of Philomina Natarajan, wearing traditional accessories is being close to Indian roots and culture.” Anytime you can catch me with my sindhoor, toe rings and mangalsutra. When I wear western outfits too, I make it a point to have these accessories on as they are very much part of me, though I don’t sport a big bindi on my forehead on certain outfits. And I definitely feel no matter how you dress, wearing these accessories make you look Indian.”

Women find it is fashionable to wear designer bangles that match their sarees rather then plain-looking glass bangles. Even the traditional bindis have given way to unusual and trendy designs that match with the times.

As the rising fashion barometer indicates, it looks though that irrespective of being a working professional or a homemaker, wearing accessories like toe rings, nose ring or even a mangalsutra is completely an individual’s choice.

Posted: September 15th, 2007 under Deccan Herald.
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Instead of complaining that the weather is rainy, hot or cloudy, why don’t we think of the people, who are in jobs that make them work regardless of the weather.

Look at the sunny weather. It’s so beautiful. Why not take off from work and spend the day outdoors, this is not a typical Englishman’s comment on the occasional sunny weather in London.

This wish may erupt within us; though it’s very unlikely that we would take off from work in Bangalore due to pleasant weather. Yes, weather seems to have an effect on all of us, no matter where we live.

It is the general perception that sunny or pleasant weather makes us feel more willing to go to work rather than a gloomy day. Moods or behaviour or for that matter, the way we feel at work depends on the weather.

Studies have shown that like colours, weather too has an effect on how we feel early in the morning. Often, at the start of the day, rain makes us feel less energetic while bright weather gives us no reason to feel gloomy.

If you are already feeling warm reading this, think again. Perhaps, such feelings get more predominant when a person doesn’t have to think of making both ends meet as the first thing in the morning.

A milkman or the young newspaper vendor, who no matter what, has to follow a strict schedule to maintain his day’s work. He may crib internally, on the weather, but that will really not affect the way he would go about with his work.

Newspapers have to be collected and distributed on time. He does not have the lenience that, probably, a regular office-goer would get. He cannot stretch his sleep time by a couple of minutes.

It is not the same for those working for organisations that maintain time in the strictest sense for work.

A radio jockey — for example — has to sound chirpy, cheerful, and energetic even if he or she has to come to the station at sunrise, amidst biting cold. So does a call-centre executive, who has to shake himself up through any means whatsoever, on the scheduled time as the cab driver would not wait for him.

With schedules sticking to the timelines of other countries, executives in BPOs do not have the choice at their dispositions to even analyse or comment on the weather. Their voice has to sound attentive, concerned and should have an attitude of a problem-solver right from the first call they receive.

Instead of complaining that the weather is rainy, hot or cloudy, why don’t we think of the people, who are in jobs that make them work regardless of the weather. Would a small grocery store owner in the neighbourhood worry about how weather would affect his mood? On a cloudy day he may be more concerned whether he would have enough customers, rather than making himself comfortable by relishing a cup of hot coffee.

These days we put the blame of being late on a shade of bad weather. “Oh! It rained so heavily this morning. The city was choked with more traffic, making me late.” If it doesn’t rain we complain, if it rains we complain. All this is in a city that has one of the finest weather conditions in the country!

Feeling lazy once in a while on a rainy day is perhaps acceptable. One finds such excuses to push aside one’s daily chores like not getting up to go for morning walks. One goes to the office in a foul mood and blames it on the rainy weather.

We may like to believe that weather affects our moods but let it not be such that our regular chores get affected due to slight weather changes. After all, we are not living in that part of the globe where we face extreme climatic conditions. Thank the Weather God for that!

Posted: September 3rd, 2007 under Deccan Herald.
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We are rude with her; we fight every now and then. And then, we run to them the minute we sense trouble. All of us are ultimately, mommy’s pets.

 When you are a little girl you want to secretly emulate whatever she’s doing — whether it is putting on her lipstick, trying on her shoes or playing ‘kitchen’ with your toy set of utensils. When you are a teenager, you want to be as far away from her as possible. You think she is rude, interfering and has no business poking her nose in your life. When you get married, you remember all those times when you were probably rude to her and vow to have a better relationship. 

 Mothers and daughters. There’s simply no explaining this relationship. The only thing that can be said is that it is more complicated than the mother-son relationship. And that’s saying a lot.

This bond that’s already stronger is tested most when the daughter gets married. It is the time when perspectives change and relationships take a turn, sometimes for worse, sometime for better.

 Says Prathima Bhatt, a 26-year-old homemaker, ” After my wedding I could relate to so many aspects of my life with my mom than my dad. When I was young, dad was this super-hero who could solve anything easily. But as you grow up, you realise both parents are vulnerable and after my wedding, I felt it was my mom who could empathise with me on most situations of my married life.”

 For someone like 45-year-old Kasturi Shah who lives alone and is a professor in a medical college, “Mothers are someone in front of whom you can show your true colours without any inhibitions. She’s a mirror really…you seldom bother how she would react if you are rude, or moody, or temperamental.  You have the assurance that even if she sees you for what you are (whatever you are), she will care for you unlike others.”

Most women in their 20s and 30s say mothers have that edge when it comes to listening to daughters’ basic yet vital concerns. It could be domestic issues, getting work done from the tailor, cribbing about the maid; no matter how petty your crib is, it is only mothers who will hear you out.

 According to Nandini Hiranniah, a working professional in her late twenties, “It is the girl-girl connection. My mom has undergone what I am going through in my life. It could be dealing with my in-laws or domestic emergencies, I know, she’s someone I can rely on anytime.”  Some feel technological advancements like the advent of cell phones has strengthened the mother-daughter bond. For others, it is advantage of living in the same city that makes them drop by their mom’s home once or twice a week. For Saraswathi Rao, a homemaker in her early 50s ” I longed to see my mom often but the only mode of being in touch was letters. Today, however I find my relation with my daughter a lot better due to the fact that she can come over anytime at her convenience. The fact that she is married and managing a different home makes me concerned about It is not only marriage that’s the turning point for this relationship. Careers too have turned out to be a factor where women find support from mothers. Many women want their daughters to be successful professionally as well, as they want daughters to achieve all that they could not in their lives.

 From the daughter’s point of view, the best thing about mothers is that they are wonderful ‘sounding boards’! A friend can be busy in her own life, dads may find some matters too trivial to talk about but moms will take that extra effort to make you feel comfortable and hear you out.

 Explains Dr Yeshashwini Kamaraju, a psychologist in NIMHANS, “It is natural for mothers to be closer to their children as the bond begins right from the womb. Women find it is their mothers rather than fathers who support them the most in matters like choosing a partner or changing a career. “

 Women may have improved their lifestyle, climbed the corporate ladder, become moms of grown-ups but in their heart of hearts, they will always be mommy’s little girl.

Posted: July 14th, 2007 under Deccan Herald.
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Having a baby is a joy best known to couples who experience it. Many take this decision either out of societal pressure or out of personal choice. Yet it is not uncommon to find couples who feel burdened with new responsibility once they have children…

Having a baby is a joy best known to couples who experience it. Many take this decision either out of societal pressure or out of personal choice. Yet it is not uncommon to find couples who feel burdened with new responsibility once they have children. The freedom in terms of going out on movie dates and dinners seem a thing of the past. If you are familiar with this situation, then you’ll be relieved to know that you are not alone. There are hundreds of others who find marital bliss good but also find the entrant of the third member in the family a joy along with huge responsibilities, sometimes to the extent of being an intrusion into their privacy. Are today’s couples adequately prepared to face this situation?

Says child and adolescent psychologist, Yeshashwini Kamaraju – “Whether it is the working woman or the homemaker, both come across stressful situations and it is very natural for couples, especially mothers, to feel a bit overwhelmed with the situation around and the new responsibility of handling a baby. Adequately, they need to have a good support system, either in the form of in-laws, parents or help at home. Couples need to understand what their priorities are and work accordingly. It may not be possible to do everything to the best but one needs to accept this fact and move on with their lives. Mothers need to create time for themselves by going for a walk, spending some time alone, leaving the baby with the father when he’s back from office or with any other family member. With this, parents can feel that the arrival of the baby is not an additional baggage in their lives.”

Putting forth her view says a young mother Renu Sharma, “It’s a kind of mixed feeling. Sometimes I do feel I am losing on the moments – whether it’s being alone with my hubby or the things that I wanted to do in life. But, at the same time, I do realise these years of my son Ashish are to be cherished. I know they are not going to come back, so I might as well enjoy them.”

Child experts suggest that accepting responsibilities and sometimes delegating responsibilities like leaving the child with a family member or help is the best way to handle the situation rather than putting themselves or the baby under the blame umbrella. Parents who have already been through the experience say the best way to go about it is through planned pregnancy and accepting parental responsibilities completely to enjoy parenthood.

Jyothi Chaturvedi, who became a mom of twins soon after her wedlock says, “Of course, initially there was no time either for me or for my hubby Ajay. I remember those early years when I would brood as to why I went in for kids immediately after marriage. But, down the line, I realised my boys were growing with me. It now feels like it was a blessing in disguise. Now, as my kids are at a manageable age, we as a couple make it a point to spend time on our own. We even go on outings alone, leaving the kids with my co-sister.”
Sharing her experience, Dr Farah Ali, a dentist and a mom says, “Having Zuha around is like adjusting our clock to her time schedule. With both of us working, we sometimes find it highly tiring to play with her at eleven in the night when all that we want is to just doze off. Even when we have to go out for lunches, we have to think hard whether to take her or leave her with my parents or in-laws.”

Over the years, couples find children to be a huge part of their lives, yet cannot help experiencing moments of frustration, guilt and acceptance when they find children to be a huge responsibility and an intrusion into their privacy. Experts say it is absolutely normal to feel this way and that couples need to make time for themselves and the baby.  Finally, as Farah adds, “It’s still fun having a baby.”

Posted: June 23rd, 2007 under Deccan Herald.
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No syringes, no permanent scars. It has adapted itself well in terms of contemporary designs and it gets off your body before you get bored with the design. Quite interestingly, intrinsic art form of using Mehendi has come a long way in its attractive quotient and it is not surprising to find women getting enticed to this ancient decorative art form.

Though one cannot pinpoint its origin, a peep into history reveals that this art is over 5000-years-old with traces found in Middle East, North Africa, Pakistan and India.

Its origin

Mehendi or Henna is a natural extract from a plant. When applied on skin, the extract’s dye component, does not pass through into the dermis, it only stains the dead cells in the epidermis resulting in reddish to orange or brownish hue. The colour is best known to result on one’s hands and feet due to their dry properties but henna can be applied anywhere on the body. How well one’s skin takes to henna depends on an individual’s skin properties.

With time, Mehendi designs have become more funky and fashionable. It is also fascinating to note that little girls and women of all age groups, cutting across caste and class find Mehendi a unique experience each time they try the design. So what’s this attraction all about?

“I get very excited each time my mom applies Mehendi on my hands. I love the colour and that it gives me a break from all my schoolbooks!” says twelve-year-old Harshita with a mischievous smile.

Naresh Gehlot, a Mehendi artist observes: “Whether one uses it for traditional purposes or to make a fashion statement Mehendi designs are in demand in all seasons. I think it has more to do with Mehendi as an art symbolising a woman being married. It is also an art that can be customised to each one’s taste and style. Personally I can give the customer the option of fifty designs including my own innovation, which is the ‘Jaal’, design. Apart from this I have found Butta’, ‘Zardosi’ and Arabic designs to be quite popular.”

According to Leela Gaur, a young executive at a financial firm, “ It amazes me to find so many women attracted to Mehendi. Probably the designs give that happy feeling to a person and brings some excitement whenever one tries them on.”

Talking about why she likes Mehendi says Roopa Naganath, another youngster who enjoys applying Mehendi on others and herself “I have found Mehendi to act as a catalyst for one’s conversation. Whenever I apply on myself, I have my colleagues, friends and even strangers asking me if there is a special occasion. The reason could be that Mehendi is traditionally associated with marriage, well being of husband and so on.” She further adds “What’s even cool is that it is good for our skin as it has cooling properties as well.”

What began as a North Indian or Moghul custom has extended its appeal across the country. Especially the season of weddings cannot be complete in India without Mehendi ceremony at the bride or the groom’s home. However it is not just weddings that give importance to Mehendi. One finds Mehendi as a symbol used to mark the well being of the husband or a birth of a child and other festivities in a North Indian family

Posted: November 25th, 2006 under Deccan Herald.
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For most Bangaloreans, summer may mean nothing more than taking care of one’s health, wearing light clothes and trying to beat heat when stuck in day-to-day traffic jams. However for children summer has a whole new meaning. With a lot of spare time in hand children are bound to coax parents to take them to city’s various malls that pose enough attraction in the forms of hi-tech entertainment mediums and eat outs. Obviously many would agree that spending time regularly at any of the city malls is not everyone’s cup of tea.

So are affordable means of entertainment a thing of the past? Probably not. Thanks to efforts of a few Bangaloreans one can find interesting, engrossing and yet affordable means of entertainment for children right in the heart of the city. Situated at Bal Bhavan, lies an interesting doll museum; an initiative by Rotary Bangalore Midtown Centennial. Says Kiran Boal Immediate Past President of Rotary Bangalore Midtown, “The museum was thought about as a novel concept and moreover as part of Rotary’s centenary celebrations we wanted to bring something interesting to the city. As on today; our target is to source dolls from over a hundred countries and right now on display one can find an interesting confluence of cultures through these dolls from over sixty one countries.”

Splashed with vibrant colours and accessories, the dolls stand in complete silence waiting to be admired. Reflecting each country’s culture and emotions of the region they belong to, these dolls represent the ethnic diversities found across the globe. One can find dolls right from the Wright brothers to Elvis Presley and even the limited edition of Anne Boleyn who was one of six wives of Henry VIII to many more like the wooden carvings from Vanuatu sent by the Rotary club of Port Vila where they have no native dolls.

A closer look at some of the costumes worn by these dolls look quite impressive like the Malaysian royal couple dressed in gold robes or the Japanese doll wearing a red kimono. More and more dolls are added to the collection regularly including some breathtaking dolls from Croatia and Pakistan.

Made from wood, velvet, cloth, and beads these dolls have been sent by various Rotary clubs across the globe including Philippines, United Kingdom, Turkey, Hawaii, Nashville, Germany, Chile, Brazil and more. Set up on the show windows of both sides of Sri Jayachamarajendra Wadiyar Victory hall in Bal Bhavan, the dolls catch the attention of any passerby.

Adds Kiran Boal on the attraction level that these dolls pose towards children. “Children who come here cannot stop gazing at them and personally if you ask me these dolls reflect cultural diversities across the globe and thereby teach geography and history for anyone.”

With absolutely no cFor most Bangaloreans, summer may mean nothing more than taking care of one’s health, wearing light clothes and trying to beat heat when stuck in day-to-day traffic jams. However for children summer has a whole new meaning. With a lot of spare time in hand children are bound to coax parents to take them to city’s various malls that pose enough attraction in the forms of hi-tech entertainment mediums and eat outs. Obviously many would agree that spending time regularly at any of the city malls is not everyone’s cup of tea.

So are affordable means of entertainment a thing of the past? Probably not. Thanks to efforts of a few Bangaloreans one can find interesting, engrossing and yet affordable means of entertainment for children right in the heart of the city. Situated at Bal Bhavan, lies an interesting doll museum; an initiative by Rotary Bangalore Midtown Centennial. Says Kiran Boal Immediate Past President of Rotary Bangalore Midtown, “The museum was thought about as a novel concept and moreover as part of Rotary’s centenary celebrations we wanted to bring something interesting to the city. As on today; our target is to source dolls from over a hundred countries and right now on display one can find an interesting confluence of cultures through these dolls from over sixty one countries.”

Splashed with vibrant colours and accessories, the dolls stand in complete silence waiting to be admired. Reflecting each country’s culture and emotions of the region they belong to, these dolls represent the ethnic diversities found across the globe. One can find dolls right from the Wright brothers to Elvis Presley and even the limited edition of Anne Boleyn who was one of six wives of Henry VIII to many more like the wooden carvings from Vanuatu sent by the Rotary club of Port Vila where they have no native dolls.

A closer look at some of the costumes worn by these dolls look quite impressive like the Malaysian royal couple dressed in gold robes or the Japanese doll wearing a red kimono. More and more dolls are added to the collection regularly including some breathtaking dolls from Croatia and Pakistan.

Made from wood, velvet, cloth, and beads these dolls have been sent by various Rotary clubs across the globe including Philippines, United Kingdom, Turkey, Hawaii, Nashville, Germany, Chile, Brazil and more. Set up on the show windows of both sides of Sri Jayachamarajendra Wadiyar Victory hall in Bal Bhavan, the dolls catch the attention of any passerby.

Adds Kiran Boal on the attraction level that these dolls pose towards children. “Children who come here cannot stop gazing at them and personally if you ask me these dolls reflect cultural diversities across the globe and thereby teach geography and history for anyone.”

With absolutely no charges levied for visiting this interesting doll museum, most definitely parents make good use of the holidays that the kids have. So how about taking your child to an unusual outing rather than killing time at the regular bowling centre this Saturday?
harges levied for visiting this interesting doll museum, most definitely parents make good use of the holidays that the kids have. So how about taking your child to an unusual outing rather than killing time at the regular bowling centre this Saturday?

Posted: April 15th, 2006 under Deccan Herald.
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It was not until a few years ago where the fairer sex was competing for merely an equal position at work.

Be it at the sales counter where her conversational abilities come in handy or at managerial positions where her niche qualities like organisational abilities are considered an asset, today a company believes in bringing women as part of its front force.

What is it really that makes organisations hire and retain and value its women workforce?

Says Ravi Prasad, CEO, Himalaya Drug Company, “Women have various skills, thereby making them an asset to any organisation. One of their key strengths is their ability to manage different tasks efficiently. They also have the ability to analyse things from a multi-dimensional viewpoint.”

Says Nahida Sunil of Jumde Art Copy, an advertising agency: “In the 20 years of my experience in the advertising industry I have realised that as men have their innate strengths, so do women. For one, they job-hop less frequently than men, which is a quality that companies look out for. Also they have an innate understanding of situations. It is not wrong to say that many of the skills they bring to their work are a mere extension of the skills they use to keep their homes function smoothly.”

Even in careers like the police force, women have made their own place. There are about 10 per cent positions reserved for women. Says Commissioner of Bangalore, Ajay Kumar Singh: “Women are extremely sensitive and can empathise with the problems of other women and children. Our women police personnel have also extended great support in organising sensitisation programmes for the public.”

Says journalist Malini Misra: “One can find women being versatile in their writing, be it a civic story or a soft story about a charity organisation. Women understand the nitty-gritty of the situation and can do a better job. Also, they are more sensitive to women’s issues and can write better about them as probably they are facing similar situations.”

Other firms such as AyurShop.com have found that most customers across the sales counter prefer to get details about the products in the store from a lady. Says CEO Vikas Sharma: “We have generally found that women are more sincere in their work.”

Those who have worked with women have no qualms in accepting that women are special to any organisation

Posted: April 1st, 2006 under Deccan Herald.
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