Category Archives: General Thoughts

Appearance vs Identity

Is appearance really an indication of the person you are? While as a college goer almost twelve years ago I would have agreed. Today however I stand to hold a much different point of view. Due to the circumstances I am in I tend to dress differently now and many teenagers who do not know me, when they see me in a sari give those looks at public places like malls, salons or at a social gathering,  as though I am the sterotyped (grudge…grr..)typical TV serial household woman who doesn’t bother much about outside world other than her home.

 What a pity I feel that even the most well versed and outgoing personalities, feel appearance is an indication of the person he or she is.

  Trust me from my own experience I have slowly learnt not to judge people at the first interaction. Somehow I have felt unless a few conversations happen or  interactions take place at different places one cannot know how a person thinks or behaves just by the way they dress up. This is become true even when I have seen in the past some of my hubby’s foreign language’s classmates dress up in the most fashionable attire and are very simple at heart or even conservative while dealing wiht certain issues.

well if annybody has anything to say on this do write to me.

Trying to get back to work post being a “Stay at home” mom

It seems just like yesterday since I have left full time work but it has been almost seven years since I quit working in a PR agency and moved to work as a part time RJ and freelance writer. Thankfully both the latter jobs gave me the designation of never being out of work and it was completely at my pace.

Now that my little one is slightly more manageable than before, want to give work outside home a shot.

Been a client servicing executive, a pr executive, a stint as a TV host, radio jockey and freelance writer now let’s see where I actually land myself in. Hoping writing saga continues until way past I am in my sixties. Wanted to put his down just for my own satisfaction. Hoping that my blog updates will be more regular than ever before.

Toys for children

Playing with my one year old is making me realize the range of toys these days children are exposed to. I remember my dad getting a few standard toys like a toy train, variety of  dolls and some rattling things. Today there a are a host of things meant for developmental up gradation, intellectual stimulation, something to fine tune their motor skills and what not.

Though I do buy branded stuff I land up buying some toys made from china (though people keep saying these are really not good due to cheap parts, harmful colours). But still I think children now have a fascinating world of toys around them especially when parents land up buying a host of them. Planning to rent some toys as I can foresee the interest level of my little one over one toys seem quite limited much to my dismay. Let’s see if it works out. Nevertheless I must say, it’s is a beautiful world with a variety of toys for children in the present world. Don’t know about how much it develops but it is fun for kids and parents to watch them with it.

Taking a break from Radio

Leaving radio finally on June 22, 2009 was quite an experience. Except may be because I already had a kind of trial run; I had left it for a month after April and joined again for a month and half, I was more prepared and knew how life would be without it.

Yet last Monday, even though I was composed I was longing for my listeners to be in touch with me, miss me and appreciate me. Yes I was feeling like a little girl wanting to be recognized and feel elated with appreciative comments. I knew it very well if people have liked my shows, have appreciated whenever I have done well they would defiantly message that day or try to get in touch with me later though my website.

I must say, it is a truly humbling experience when one receives a nice feedback from a stranger who has liked your voice or the way show is conducted and this is shown through sms or a comment left. In my last post if I have thanked rainbow for making me feel special I have to admit this time atleast it is listeners who can make a radio jockey truly feel special. Thank you everyone (no matter how many in numbers) who have wished good for me on radio thanks for making me feel really special.

Moving into another phase of life, where change is the only constant

It is a strange feeling before I go to sleep tonight. I am sure to have butterflies before I go on air tomorrow; the last show on radio in this phase of my life. I really do not know how to thank all those countless listeners who have been with me and made feel that radio is the right career for me. It was not as easy decision to quit a full time job of PR to move into radio and writing, but I do not think I have ever regretted this career move. As things change it’s time for me to take a long break; this time though it’s for a personal reason.

Thank you FM Rainbow for making me feel special whenever I was on air.

Celebrity encounter with Aamir Khan!

I am not going to forget last evening’s outing for a long time in my life. I had gone out with Vikas and a few of his German friends to watch a play called ‘Black Tie’ from a German production. If you ask me the play was more of a Korean one than a German perspective yet I must admit the message was strong enough to bring in new insights about adoptions. For one I am going to think hard if ever I decide to adopt a baby.

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Anyway coming to the chance celebrity encounter, we finished the play late in the evening around 9.45 pm. A causal conversation amongst us on the actual message of the play took a little longer and thankfully made us stay there. Soon enough we saw someone getting mobbed with camera flashlights. We found it surprising that the cast of the play is getting so much attention and thought probably others were more appreciative of them. Suddenly, I heard Vikas scream “Aamir Khan”! I turned around and saw Aamir in skin and blood just there, three steps away from us! I plunged my hand into my handbag to get hold of a notepad, to get his autograph. As the bodyguard of Aamir was hurrying him out there was not much time to think. My mind was racing with options of getting to enquire about his availability here, a possible radio interview, tele-con anything if at all. I started flipping through pages of my handy telephone book and was finding no page empty.Thankfully I finally found half a page vacant with no scribbling of either numbers or names and I rushed myself amidst the crowd right in front of Aamir Khan. I confidently asked him Aamir, “autograph please”. In the back of mind I was hearing a voice asking me to ask Aamir for a possible interview. Somehow I couldn’t make the decision in all the hurry, fans trying to get themselves photographed et al. Oh yes the moment when Aamir took my telephone book to sign, he asked me, “Sure, do you have a pen?” I was taken aback as I didn’t really have a pen in my hand. Suddenly I saw Vikas diving amidst others to give me a pen and then was the Kodak moment.

Aamir signed it for me as I told him that my name is Reshma. He looked at me, froze the eye contact for a split second before smiling and moving away. Trust me, I felt maybe he liked my grey blue eyes. Though countless people have admired my eye colour, yesterday I felt privileged! Later I felt maybe he thought it doesn’t matter if you are Reshma or Nargis or Anjana or maybe the glance didn’t mean anything at all.

Yet I cannot deny the fact the emotion running throughout the evening was similar to a twelve year old teenager having seen her first celebrity crush live in front of her. I can never forget when I had fallen in love with Aamir when QSQT was released and over the years I guess the crush has obviously metamorphosised into respect given the person and his comments in public life or his roles on screen.

Oh yes the Kodak moment became more special when a popular Hindi news paper – Rajasthan Patrika, that I seldom read but henceforth will value more, this morning published a photograph of Aamir Khan signing the autograph for me! And guess what, Aamir Khan and I were dominant in the picture.

Thank you Aamir and thanks to the Rajasthan Patrika photographer! Yes, I do have the autograph which I was trying hard to convince folks at home that it is really Aamir’s signature but the next day’s picture said it all. I have mentioned this briefly on Aamir’s blog as well in the hope of another encounter during his stay in Bangalore. God willing let’s see.

This prompts me to write more on the many celebrity encounters I have had. Keep visiting the site.

DW Radio in India

When things were looking like have I done it all on radio considering the parameters of RJ-ing on FM on a public service broadcast, I found out that a German institute (Max Mueller Bhavan) is organizing a media discussion on “Media in India – Conflicts and Contradictions” on Oct 8, 08. I was more inclined to attend this as I was given to understand that this marks the launch of a German radio broadcast Deutsche Welle in India. I was quite keen to attend this and it was exactly a week ago that I attended this launch. Honestly have got bugged listening to any other competitive fm station in Bangalore. Sincerely I feel my channel, FM Rainbow 101.3MHz is somehow doing some amount of variety in terms of radio talks, quizzes etc (even though we are lacking on not organizing gifts and other goodies for listeners) I guess we are moving on because of content and loyal listenership. Thank God!

I have heard BBC broadcasts and have been quite impressed with it, parts of them, I mean. Coming to the launch of the new broadcast here in India, the Bangalore event had a quite a handful of audience.  As I rushed in (I was 10 minutes late to the scheduled time) I was pleasantly surprised to see Ms. Indu Gajraj from All India Radio on the dias. There was also Nupur Basu, C.K Meena and Ramachandra Guha.

From the routine media is no longer what it is supposed to be, to an overview of how print, online, television and radio is working, to an interesting round of Q& A with the audience I was quite content with the evening. I had a question for the panel too which I think kind of put off some people on the dias but they were polite enough to answer it. I had asked if all the discussion would actually lead to any improvement and if the members of the panel would go back and do something to improve the situation of media in India. No form of media changes and all we do is talk at more such discussion forums? As I said, I was politely told that they are mainly freelancers and at best they could hope for the right kind of media in India.

I had a word or two with the representative, Ms Priya Esselborn from DW radio on their Hindi broadcasts and how they function. She was glad to tell me a few things and seemed very helpful. The session ended with some personal interaction with the panel members at Café Max. I had dinner at TGIF and headed home thinking that I would blog about this one!

MANNA DEY AND AMEEN SAYANI LIVE IN CONCERT – MAY 10, 2008

It is going to be two months since I have attended this live in concert with Manna Dey and Ameen Sayani but the experience is still fresh. To be honest had attended the concert for one strong reason to see and listen to one person’s voice. The voice that had swooned listeners one and all across the nation. No, I am not talking of Manna Dey (with due respect and after seeing him perform even at 87, I was bowled over) but I had actually gone to see Ameen Sayani.

Being a movie buff and a RJ by profession, passion towards retro Hindi tracks is obvious. I guess I am more inclined towards these songs because I host Meethi Yaadein( in addition to the 2’o clock show and the request hour) on FM Rainbow on Mondays and Wednesdays.

Coming to the concert, the auditorium- Chowdiah Memorial Hall was packed filled with lot of Bengali enthusiasts and quite a number of other people. A co – RJ who had interviewed Manna Dey had mentioned to me earlier that he is short tempered. Had how artists can rise theri temper in front of a live audience during a Jagjith Singh concert. However was expecting Manna Dey to flare up just in case a mobile rings in the concert or if the audience asks him to sing for long. But Manna Dey went with the flow and though he ws strict in asking his musicians to get the ‘sur’ right, he was just magical. He made me wonder if I would speak continously the lenght he sang at his age.

Coming to Amen Sayani, had heard of India’s first RJ who had seen fame that no one else had seen, when I heard him speak on stage in conversation with Manna Dey, I thought is it luck god’s gift or sheer magic of the voice that got him adulation. In the tea break Manna Dey went to take some rest while people were rushing to talk to Ameen Sayani. I could not miss the opportunity and even I rushed to catch a glimpse of him. Mentally feeling like a young teenager I was in complete awe looking at him. Am attaching two snaps, one Manna Da performing and the other where Ameen Sayani is signing an autograph for me with my lucky green pen. Do I sound like a little girl (maybe I am!!).

When I mentioned that I am an RJ, he stared at me and smiled. I added saying no RJ or announcer in the country has seen the kind of popularity he has seen, he commented humbly, “You see at that time All India Radio had banned film songs, and I was on Radio Ceylon, people had no choice but to listen to Binaca Geet Mala.” Another point, which hit me because once I had mentioned it on radio on air, was when a couple of listeners had sent SMSes as though I was a diva and they thanked me profusely for making their day. I mentioned on air that I am not doing much, I am playing songs which someone else has sung, someone else has composed, acted, some one penned. Similar kind of thread with of course with great humility Ameen Saab mentioned that he wouldn’t be where he is if singers, music directors or lyricists didn’t exist and he is because of them.

WOMEN POWER

I do not know what to call this lengthy gap in my writing on blog, indiscipline, structured way of putting things certainly not lack of content. Have been thinking every week on the issues that I want to write on, but haven’t really put it across.

Just finished a series on women to mark International women’s day on March 8th. Thought of a program went to my senior, got it approved and got the guests for the show. To make it work everyday with a thought-provoking interview meant backbreaking background work but hey it was worth the effort. Beginning from Mansi Prasad to Dr. Nirmala I received interesting viewpoints of a woman. Just loved the show. Was glad many found it informative and it was well received. Hope to do more such shows or may be even better ones. If at all any of you had listened to any of the shows, do leave a comment how it was?

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Topic

Guest

Date

1

Women and Self Confidence

Mansi Prasad

March 1, 2008

2

Women and Self Confidence (targeted at homemakers)

Sakuntala Narisimhan

March 2, 2008

3

Women and Nutrition

Dr. Sreemathy Venkatraman (Dietician & Columnist on Nutrition)

March 3, 2008

4

Women and Legal Matters &

Women and Counseling

Geeta Krishnamurthy

Dr. Yeshashwini Kamaraju (Psychiatrist at NIMHANS)

March 4, 2008

5

Women and Finance

B. Ravindranath

(Expert in investment matters)

March 5, 2008

6

Women and Entrepreneurship (Canara Bank)

Shashikala Murthy

March 6, 2008

7

Woman and Social Service

Komala Manjunath

March 7, 2008

8

Women and Health

Dr. Nirmala

March 8, 2008

MEETING PEOPLE WHO CAN MAKE YOU THINK… TALK AND WRITE

Of late I have been meeting people who are making me write more and talk more. Yes both in print and on radio, I have come across people from various backgrounds, professions and various sensibilities. Right from an enriching meeting with noted theater personality & director M.S Sathyu to the otherwise quite Ramanujam Sridhar (or maybe he talks when there is the need to. He was there in our studio to talk on public relations as a career) to whole lot of women who provided me inputs in writing my features for publications, each is a different person with different attitude.

Someone asked me if I get a thrill in meeting personalities than just ordinary people. The question made me think – are those who are not popular because of publicity and media ordinary people? I do admit people who are known because of publicity have an aura and they need to retain it. Yet people who are not known and are continuing with their regular work; are thought to be ordinary. Why should one think so, for they may have better ideas, opinions and intellect that is yet to be made public?

When I write on specific issues that make me think about them deeply, generally I do understand I cannot move ahead without other’s inputs on them. So at least for me people, who give their comments for my articles, give their opinions; hold equal importance if not more than the people I meet for radio chats.