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I love kitchen toys and I am not a girl

Harsh is a young boy studying in class I, in a city in India.  There have been many changes that Harsh has seen when it comes to choosing his toys. Whenever he goes to the jazzy lit malls in his city with his Mama or Papa he is generally directed to the toys section by the shop assistants. And there are good number of toys almost clearly demarcated for young boys and little girls.

One such evening, Harsh’s mom wanted to pick a toy for his classmate’s birthday which was scheduled for the coming Saturday evening at her residence. Harsh was quite excited to look at the toys and wondered if he would be ridiculed for holding a Barbie doll.  As soon as he picked one toy on kitchen utilities, the shop assistant rushed to harsh and showed him to look for the cars and puzzles. ” I have those already, I just wanted to see if I can take home a Barbie doll or a kitchen toy tonight.”

The assistant’s smile was not encouraging, yet Harsh took the toy to his mom who was going through some labelled ‘girlie’ toys. ” Mama, Purvi likes to play with cars and bikes. Maybe you should pick that for her if possible ” said Harsh to his mom.  When his  mom looked at Harsh with a kitchen toy, she smiled and said  ” We are here to buy for Purvi. I can get you what you want next month.” Is that fine with you?”.

Harsh wanted an optimistic answer, ” Even a barbie doll or kitchen toy is fine with you?” asked Harsh.  ” Yes of course, cooking is a life-skill dear not just to be learnt by girls. Big boys ought to know cooking if they want to be independent in life. And you can take this toy next month.”

“But Barbie” said Harsh.

” It is not a problem.” But can I ask you why do you want a  Barbie doll asked his mom.

” I just like her just as I like Ben 10.”

“Yes of course, dear,” said his mom making harsh feel it was perfect for him to choose toys that he wanted than what was labelled around.

Finally his mom picked a small car for Purvi and Harsh went back to the shop assistant with his mom to say that they are coming back to pick the kitchen toy and the Barbie doll for him next month.

Story for 5-7 years old.

BY RESHMA KRISHNAMURTHY SHARMA

Beauty and the Wise

A beautiful yellow  butterfly came to the most popular garden in the city. The butterfly came and seated herself on a huge red rose.

Lots of visitors everyday thronged the garden and clicked pictures of the flowers and of the neatly laid out lawns. Today it was time for people clicking pictures of the butterfly.

A crow was sitting on a tall tree top and he saw this butterfly and thought to himself ‘ How I wish I was good looking too. People would admire me too.”

The butterfly happened to glance at the crow and murmured ” I wish, God had made me look  little more sober. At least I would have got little bit of privacy. I hate when these humans rover around me when I eat my food, when I sleep or even when I want to be alone.”

A wise pigeon who was present on another branch of the tree, looked at the crow and at the butterfly. Soon she called out to both of them to come near her saying ” I have something very important to tell you both.” When both came to her to listen to her, the pigeon further continued, ” We are all made differently and it is wise not to compare with others. ”

“Come to think of it, you really from the bottom of your heart wouldn’t want to be a disliked butterfly just because of your looks and you wouldn’t want to be a handsome crow, or else you would have been captive somewhere. ”

Both the butterfly and the crow realized that it is better to work around our limitations and plus points rather than cribbing about it.

By Reshma Krishnamurthy Sharma

 

 

 

In the midst of conversion

It is Christmas celebrations everywhere in Bangalore with streamers, colourful lights, bells, stars lined up in stores waiting to be bought and decorated in home. On the other hand, the national headlines seem to indicate the row on conversions from one religion to another, tagging along the christmas date of bringing forgotten hindus back to Hinduism.

When I have put up a Christmas tree and a star and of course decor related to x’mas celebrations this 2014, my little one is most excited with me to imagine and hope that Santa will come to our home and give us some goodies along with blessings.

As much as I decorated and relished traditional delicacies whether it was for other festivals like onam, diwali or for christmas, it is the openness of these festivals that makes people like me to enjoy these festivities and relish some fun moments at home.

Religion and practicing a particular faith is purely a personal matter, according to me I hope people will understand that celebrating a festival or practicing a particular religion doesn’t make them or strip them of their identity of who they really are.

Tiger in the city

It was going to be dawn on a Friday morning in a crowded city in India. Suddenly it appeared that there was a huge commotion in the busy market area. A rumour had spread that a tiger was spotted in the city. People were cautious to step out of their homes and go to offices. Parents did not want to send their kids to school. News channels were constantly beaming images of where the tiger was last spotted by a passerby.

Most in the city didn’t know if there was really a wild tiger roaming in the city or it was a prank by some mischief mongers. In a deserted building which was still under construction, Chulbul the witty mouse was creating some sounds in the underground basement. There was one small flickering bulb and no else was present in the basement. He was enjoying his catch, a leftover pizza loaded with cheese. He suddenly shivered as he saw a huge shadow near him. He rubbed his eyes to see if he was seeing a tiger. A huge tiger emerged slowly from the shadows.

The tiger said, “Hey mouse, can you tell me where I can get some food.” Chulbul had to gulp down the pizza piece quickly. He offered the pizza to the tiger. The tiger Sherkhan, said “ I don’t know what is this food?. I want to eat something like a deer or a rabbit or even a mouse will do.” Chulbul had to react quickly. He said, “Listen tiger”. “My name is Sherkhan,” said the tiger.

“Well..Sherkhan, I have another interesting food for you. He dragged a watermelon fruit behind a tin sheet and gave it to the tiger. Sherkhan threw a fit. “Do you think I can eat vegetarian food like these fruits. I want my kind of food. First of all I got lost today from the jungle and entered this noisy city. I want to go back to the jungle but I think I will either be killed by these humans or I will be dragged to a zoo.”

“Calm down” said Chulbul. For now you have to either eat this dish. It’s called pizza or you have to eat the watermelon. And yes I have a way out for you to reach the jungle. The tiger ate a piece of watermelon hesitantly and said this was not his food. He was almost to tears. The rat said “I think it is better if you reach the jungle quickly before the city residents spot you.”

Chulbul then took the tiger to another corner of the deserted building and that led to an underground canal. He said “You can try your luck and swim for a while before you can reach the jungle. I had heard from some other animals that there is a forest close to the city. Maybe this underground water canal will reach to the closest destination like a far-off highway road and from there you can find your way out. Also hopefully you might find something in these waters like fishes.”

Sherkhan seemed hopeful and thanked Chulbul. He also mentioned to the mouse that he is most welcome to visit him in the jungle if at all he ever thinks of a jungle trip.

Sherkhan started to swim and soon disappeared from chulbul’s sight. Chulbul prayed for a moment and thanked his stars that he was able to help someone, but more importantly he saved himself from being someone else’s breakfast.

By evening Chulbul got to know from his friends that a tiger had been caught across a water canal by some people but it was soon taken to the jungle and set free.

Chulbul went to bed with a memorable experience of his lifetime.

The 5 brave girls- Story by Reshma Krishnamurthy Sharma (for 4-6 year olds)

The school bell had rung and it was time for all the children to go home. The children hurriedly packed their bags as the teacher said with a smile” Time to go home safely”. Lots of children came to the school from far off distances and it was a quite a task for many of them to reach back home on time.

As the gates opened the children in the little village in tamilnadu, selvi and her friends made a group of five before they could head back home. The school was 6kms away from her house and it was a walk selvi and her friends did everyday to reach school.

As her parents were uneducated and worked at the tea plantations faraway, they knew to get a better life one required to study and do well in professional life. They always wanted selvi to study and be able to look after herself well in life, hopefully with a good job and sound education.

There was however one stretch that ran close to the jungle border and there was the possibility of a wild animal coming in front of the little girls. Yet selvi and her friends had always decided to be brave and use presence of mind to save each other from any untoward incident.

It was an everyday game, each girl would pick three to five sticks from the road, and keep herself guarded as long as they were crossing the interior jungle stretch. Soon when they came closer to the village, they would put the sticks to one side together and go back home.

This evening, a long snake came in front of the girls. The five girls panicked and were thinking whether they should hit the snake or run from there. Selvi immediately whispered to others. “Stand still, do not panic or hit it. It will not harm us.” Two girls started crying out of fear. The snake hissed and left on a different route. All of them hugged selvi and said, “We must run home”.

Soon they reached home and within a few minutes selvi’s parents came from work after a long day. As her mother was getting about household chores, selvi told her mom and dad about the unpleasant encounter in the evening. Her father patted her for being brave and said that it is the right thing that the children didn’t provoke the animal unnecessarily.

Selvi went off to sleep after dinner and waited for the morning to come by. After all she had a story to share with her teacher and other classmates, “The 5 brave girls.”

ARYA’ S NEW FRIEND

It was a breezy evening. Arya had returned back home after school. As his mom was making his evening milk ready for him along with a few snacks, arya opened the door to see outside.

It was too cold and quite windy. Immediately he heard his mom sternly asking him to close the door. He murmured a ‘sorry’ and got back to the living room. After sometime he asked his mom if he can step out for five minutes and promised her that he will be well within the compound area.

Arya was actually looking for a tiny kitten that was trying to get underneath some sort of shade to cover itself from the monstrous wind. He had noticed the kitten the first time he had opened the door and had wanted to help the little one out.

He got a little round basket from inside his home and asked his mom to give him a towel. He then showed her the little kitten that was shivering outside. Arya’s mom understood that he wanted to befriend the little one and gave him a small towel. Arya then took the basket and put the little kitten slowly into the basket.

Before he could ask his mom if she could give the little one some milk, his mom got some warm milk for the kitten. The kitten hesitantly drank the milk from a stranger’s hand but soon felt secure in the basket. Soon the little one went off to sleep. Arya’s mom coaxed him to get inside and assured him that the little animal would be fine.

It became dark and after finishing his homework and playing with his toys Arya remembered again about the kitten. He went out to check if his new friend was doing fine but the basket was empty and the wind had calmed down too. Arya felt very bad that he could not retain his new friend for long. He came back rushing inside the house with tears rolling down his cheeks. His mom understood that the kitten had gone from the basket and consoled him saying that he had done a beautiful deed today and surely the little kitty must have surely gone to a safer place or maybe went back home to his mommy.

Arya again went to the window and prayed for the little kitten that she would be safe and happy.

Hopefully she will come to meet him again.

(The second story for 4-6 year olds, original story by Reshma Krishnamurthy Sharma).

Eight things to know to be safe and enjoy, when in Bangalore

This city welcomes all. However, if you know some of these tips beforehand, your stay in Bangalore will become enjoyable!

Here are a few things listed from a Bangalorean for a first-time visitor to namma Bengaluru.

Bangalore is the capital city of Karnataka state in South India. Kannada is the local language spoken in the city though in the current times, most are well-versed with English and Hindi. There are a huge number who speak Tamil, Telugu and other Indian languages even though it is not their native language. Similarly there are migrants to this city who are from various parts of India.

The city has established itself undoubtedly as a cosmopolitan city that offers the glimpse of the country, with its ability to welcome and live with members from any part of the globe.

The following are the ten things that I can put down as a first-hand guide for a visitor who is new to the city.

1. Masala Dosa: Bangalore is also known as Bengaluru. Make sure you eat a masala dosa at a darshini in the city. Darshinis are the hotspots of breakfast eat outs that almost run through the day. The ones that have people swarming at the eatery will surely have a good masala dosa. Popular ones are Vidyarthi Bhavan, Adigas, MTR and Maiyyas.

When it comes to eateries and cuisines, Bangalore has welcomed various cuisines. If you are fine trying a rice dish, then try out a Puliogere or a Bisibelebath. Also if possible take time to have an authentic and grand Karnataka lunch. Good options are at MTR, Pai comforts at JP nagar to name a few. And last but not the least while you may otherwise enjoy cappuccinos and black teas; try a filter coffee –light at any darshini.

2. Heavenly climate: Bangalore has a unique climate. The season though is divided between summer, winter, spring and rains; it is not uncommon to find cool and pleasant weather in the mornings and scorching heat in the afternoons. It is again not a rare sight to find a heavy rainy shower in some streets during the rainy season of July-September to have some streets which may be just few yards away a bare dry weather.

3. Silk sarees: When in Bangalore, make sure you visit a good saree store to buy a saree for a loved one. A reasonable good saree ranges between Rs, 1000/- to 10,000/-. The range can go higher too if you want to buy. A few popular stores are Vijaylakshmi, Prasiddhi, Deepam, Nalli, Soch. Alternatively you can buy a khadi kurta at Desi, Fab India stores and Grameen Angadi at JP Nagar.

3. Feast for a thiest: Bangalore has quite a few scenic temples. If you can make time then do visit Bull Temple at Basavanagudi, Rajrajeshwari temple (for its intricate work), Iskon temple (a temple that has a modern touch to it) and Venkateshwara temple at Banashankari.

It is recommended that you dress conservatively when visiting a temple. You can wear trousers and tops but shorts and short skirts are not welcomed at the holy shrines in Bangalore. And yes dressing full covered clothes would save you unwanted stares.

4. Parks: Bangalore is home to a few gardens. For a stroll you can visit Lalbagh. Cubbon Park is more of a tree park, on the face of it, it does not appear safe for a visitor, however the places near to police station or Chinnaswamy stadium are widely used by people.

5. Malls: Bangalore has quite a few malls in various parts of the city. Phoenix Market city at Whitefield, Mantri Mall at Malleshwaram, Orion Mall in Rajajinagar and Forum mall at Koramangala are th epopular ones, while there are other malls too.

6. Heartwarming performaces: The city has a great patronage for Indian art forms. Almost every single week there are Bharatnatyam performances to classical Indian music shows. Some are conducted at temples, others at specific venues for performing arts. Look in an English daily supplement to find out on the performances in the city. You can attend a few for free too.

Bangalore has a vibrant theatre scene. Right from English plays to French and German and Kannada performances, the city has numerous shows every single day. You will have to plan a bit in advance, if you want to attend a theatre perofmance. Good plays are regularly staged at Jagriti at Whitefield, Ravindra Kalakshetra at the heart ofthe city, K H Kalasoudha at Hanumantha Nagar, Alliance Francaise in Vasanth Nagar, Rangashankara at JP Nagar and Chowdiah Memorial hall in Malleshwaram.

7. Restaurants and pubs: Bangalore has a midnight deadline in restaurants, while pubs will close at 9.30 pm. Be a little careful about auto rickshaw drivers, or even cab drivers. It is advisable that you have a friend who knows the local language/any Indian language when travelling in the city, if you do not know the city. Most auto rickshaw drivers will understand English. You can check your location and destination beforehand with GPS, and have a safety-app enabled mobile with you. You can also take a pre-booked auto if you inevitably have to travel alone in an auto. Bangalore is known for being home to good pubs. A few good ones are Hard Rock café, a few at UB city and around MG road.

8. A foodie’s delight: Bangalore, due to its mixed population, is home to various inter-state and international cuisines. So if you are missing your home food then you can be assured of finding one restaurant at least that will offer Bengali, Gujrathi, Punjabi, Rajasthani, Andhra, Kerala, Mexican, Thai, Chinese and the Pizza chains. Oh yes, there are scores of KFC chains, Subways and McDonalds in the city.

Do remember that is there much more to explore in Bangalore but I hope this would be of use to people who want to get a taste of the city when they are here for a brief visit.

By Reshma Krishnamurthy Sharma

Reshma Krishnamurthy Sharma lives in Bangalore and loves reading and writing on society and changing lifestyles

As published on Citizen Matters online edition on September 13th 2014
http://bangalore.citizenmatters.in/articles/eight-things-to-know-to-be-safe-when-in-bangalore

An offer you can refuse

Beware of the reduced price shopping syndrome or you will end up with stuff you don’t really need

Have you noticed how you buy stuff you don’t really need thanks to sale and discount ads?

Welcome to the world of impulse shopping where gullible shoppers repeatedly fall for offers. Even supermarkets have discounts tied to specific days.

Preeti S, a homemaker says: “In the last two months, I have bought several things to revamp my wardrobe and ended up with a few unnecessary home décor items thanks to an offer.

Vishal Parashar, a college student says, “Peer pressure ensures that we buy clothes, shoes and mobile accessories often.

Sometimes I buy high-end branded clothing when it is on sale. I find everyone doing it.

Moreover it’s a nice feeling to be seen in good clothes.”

Vishal admits he spends a large percentage of his pocket money on clothes at these discounted stores and so needs to spend at least a fortnight every two months with practically no money to compensate his sudden expenditure.

Malls and branded stores are super accessible these days given that every locality has them, which also contributes to impulse buys.

However, the easiest way to deal with the lure of discounts would be to say no and move on.

A few tips for the next time you go shopping

? Carry a fixed amount of cash when you go to a mall rather than a card

? The next time you see a tempting offer, work out whether you really need to have that outfit or implement.

? Analyze your needs against your wants

? With plenty of options available, browse a few stores and online before taking the plunge.

? Try and postpone your decision for a few days and review whether you really need the purchase.

Published on September 9th 2014
http://www.thehindu.com/features/metroplus/an-offer-you-can-refuse/article6391203.ece

Onam in Bangalore -2014

As I read an article this morning in the Hindu on more and more people knowing about an important festival from Kerala, I have begun to nod my head in complete agreement- it is indeed a pleasant surprise.

Nothing surprising, that Bangaloreans are open to new cultures, but this year Onam spirit is surely high enough seen on friday-sat-over the sunday.

Have been noticing that people and since yesterday, particularly college students are dressed in the real Kerala saree, the golden and cream combination. Even corporates are having their employees dressed in onam related outfits. I remember two years ago, as I was working for a firm that had lot of people who wanted to celebrate, I took the initiative and we had onam rangoli competitions.

Employees dressed in the way Keralites dress during festive occasions and excitedly I too purchased a saree for myself. Of course I do wear it once in a while.

Women regardless of belonging to Kerala or not are celebrating with complete ‘josh’ this time in Bangalore and this time as Onam falls on a Sunday, September 7th.

Another noticeable trend this time people wanting to feast on Onam sadhya -supposedly made by the people who celebrate. This time a lot of restaurants are advertising well in advance for people to come and have the elaborate meal.

All in all, as long as happy times and smiling faces are around I guess Bangoreans get into the spirit of celebrating many other festivals and occassions. Soon it will be Dandiya time. For now it is happy onam.

Breakfast in speed up mode

With busy schedules dictating food habits, it seems that instant food mixes and batters are here to stay.

One cannot ignore the Deepika Padukone starrer commercial that talks about her two-week challenge for a slim waist for an upcoming wedding season, thanks to her choice of diet- a bowl of cereal. In the times of enormous marketing for global foods and breakfast options with breads, cereals and smoothies, we might have become diet conscious or ready to try an increased menu for variety, but we have not yet given up on traditional menus.

The time-constrained urban Indian consumer has started adopting quicker fixes for preparing traditional cuisines. Many urban Indians pick up a pack of ready-to-use batter meant to cook idlis or dosas when they are out shopping. It is not just instant idli or dosa batters that are making way to our kitchens.

Even traditional rice recipes that were earlier manually ground at home involving multiple ingredients have changed to instant rice recipes and masala powders available in convenient pouches. Convenience and non-fussy efforts in kitchens are bringing about a change in the traditional south Indian palatte.<

Ten years ago, it was not uncommon to find a heavy grinding stone in the kitchen or a bride using a traditional coconut scraper . Today with modern kitchen equipments, from food processors to easy-to-use swanky looking coconut scrapers, These items have started to become obsolete in urban areas. Ashwini Nath, a customer service executive says, “Nothing beats the convenience and variety of instant batter that can be churned anytime to make a good south Indian breakfast. There are days when I do end up making sandwiches for breakfast. The availability of read to use batters and breakfast mixes ensures that you can cook a nice meal in quick time.

”“When we were young, preparation of a meal involved a lot of time and effort. There were no distractions and it was an accepted practice for women to grind at home, pound the masalas and ensure that every meal is prepared . Today it is the time of instant results for everything in life, so how can cuisines be left out?,” quips Saraswathi Rao, a sixty year old home-maker.

Published in the Hindu Metro Plus, Bangalore on June 13th 2014- http://www.thehindu.com/todays-paper/tp-features/tp-metroplus/breakfast-in-speed-up-mode/article6108779.ece